Do you have a harsh inner critic
By jennagriffiths | March 15, 2011
This month in Earth School we’re dealing with the inner critic.
A topic that’s very close to my heart.
Learning to live with an inner predator
This theme is my own personal black hole.
It’s what causes my heart to contract.
My mud to get shaken up.
And all the blood to run out of my veins.
Richard Unger calls one theme related to this “Mr Not Enough”
and maps nine different versions in people’s fingerprints.
If you have mr Not Enough as your “life lesson”
then it’s your purpose to explore this theme in all its shades
of grey and purple. It’s your hot topic. Your life’s thesis
in what Unger calls “Earth University.”
There are many ways to do this.
Some people talk about managing your ANTS? (Automatic negative thoughts)
about yourself, your worthiness and what you are doing or not doing….
The trick is to disassociate from these thoughts.
This is where sub- personalities like “Mr Not Enough”
are useful because they help us see the thoughts as separate from ourselves.
Think of Mr NE as a character.
Mr Ne.Gate?
He’s always with you. Some days he’s more active and vocal than other days.
On a good day he’s a friend. An inner ally. Maybe a bossy coach or teacher.
On a bad day he’s an inner enemy.
Almost a vicious predator. Or wild gunman
who surfaces in your dreams and
tramples sacred sanctuaries shooting all your children.
So, how to turn such a monster into an ally?
One way of dealing with a destructive Mr NE
is to create another inner ally
(a friendly sub personality).
Someone who supports you through thick and thin
with unconditional love.
I call this part of me my “inner granny”.
Play with it and see if it works for you.
Mine is called “Granny Griffiths” after my real granny.
She counterbalances Mr NE saying things like:
“There there dear. Don’t listen to him.
He’s just a grumpy old fool. And actually he’s got a good heart.
It’s hard to believe but he means well. Really he is.
He’s trying to help you!”
If you’d like to model your own inner granny on mine, here is something I wrote about grannies and
inner grannies about 2 years ago.
This month in Earth School I’ve invited 2 Richards to come and talk to you
on “dealing with the inner critic”.
After a life long study of this theme,
I find that these two men have the best solutions for dealing with this topic.
The date of the interview with Richard Moss is 1 April 2011.
The date with Richard Unger is on 24 March 2011.
This is a specialist call explaining how the inner critic shows up in your hands
and how your hands give you resources for dealing with this internal predator.
News Flash: As usual, Richard Unger is full of surprises.He says he won’t be focusing on Mr Not Enough on this call. There are other markers and fingerprints that are much more relevant. I’m curious to hear what he has to say.
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Join the Earth School Mud Challenge
By jennagriffiths | March 15, 2011
“The greatest service you can do for this planet
is take responsibility for your own thoughts.” Richard Moss
How this works:
Some days, even if its a beautiful sunny day, I can’t see clearly because my mud is unsettled.
It’s hard to see that its my own thoughts that stir up the mud.
But if I wait a bit. And catch myself shaking myself up with a painful thought
then the battle is mostly won. I see it’s me doing the shaking not the other person or wharever’s happening.
Suddenly I am free. Because if its me doing the shaking, I can stop shaking up the mud whenever I wish.
And then, as soon as I can see more clearly, I notice something. Actually it’s a beautiful sunny day today. How lucky I am to be here on this beautiful planet.
This powerful exercise comes from Richard Moss.
Join the Earth School Mud Challenge
My challenge to you:
Have fun trying to catch yourself in the act over the next 30 days.
My son helped me make you a quick video to see how:
Earth School Mud Challenge? Read the rest of this entry »
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Are you willing to let your mud settle?
By jennagriffiths | March 13, 2011
“Be still and allow the mud to settle.”
Lao Tzu
I had a lot of fun this week demonstrating a powerful exercise from Richard Moss
to two groups of ZIWA women in Zurich.
How does it go?
First you put some mud in a jar and then
you fill the rest of the jar with clear water.
The clear water is your mind on a calm day.
The mud is your old stuff that usually doesn’t blur your vision.
But what happens when your peace of mind gets disturbed?
The jar gets shaken up and you can’t see clearly any more.
Sometimes we do get bumped from outside.
But, when you stop and really think about it,
usually it’s each of us ourselves who does most, if not all, the shaking,
not the event or another person.
“It’s not really the situation that is the problem.
It’s what we tell ourselves about the situation.” Richard Moss
How does this work?
We tell ourselves a story.
An unsettling thought about whatever is happening
and that stirs up our mud.
Maybe we really did get bumped once. But that was a day, a week, a month,
or 60 years ago. Then we re-tell ourselves a painful story about this
(an interpretation of what happened or a fear of what could happen in the future)
and shake up all our mud all over again.
And then we feel awful and can’t see clearly
and react with pain
and possibly even lash out and say hurtful things to others in the process.
An example from my life?
A few months ago a friend invited me to lunch
but that morning her boyfriend got sick and she totally forgot about our appointment.
While sitting waiting for my friend I really shook myself up with some extremely dark thoughts.
To be honest, I got totally upset.
I couldn’t see this at the time but the pain was self inflicted and, I discovered later,
the dark painful thoughts I was having were totally untrue.
It’s hard to see clearly when your vision is blurred
by unsettled mud.
The mud? Usually pain from the past.
So how to use this yourself?
Here are some action exercises
Richard asks: Are you willing to sit with the feelings
long enough to allow your mud to settle?
Can you see it’s you that’s doing the shaking not someone else?
Shaking allows you to presence it as the past…
and process whatever feelings arise in the present.
Make it a game.
Can you catch yourself in the act?
Whenever you feel unset or unhappy or blocked
simply ask yourself:
What’s the painful story I’m busy telling myself?
Is it a story about the past, or the future, or about what you believe about yourself
or about what you believe about someone else or something else?
Just labelling the story in this way helps.
Common stories people tell themselves?
“He doesn’t love/respect/appreciate/understand/see me”
“If only my mother had been more ….”
“I’m too late/too damaged/too unsupported/the wrong sex/the wrong colour……”
“My life is over”
Tools?
I know of 3 powerful tools to help you.
1. One is Byron Katie’s 4 questions (this tool really helped me a few years ago when my husband and I separated).
2. Richard Moss’s Mandela of Being.
Just label each disturbing thought as it arises: this thought is about the past, this thought is about the future, this thought is about what I think another person is thinking…. (see demonstration of this above)
3. Richard Unger’s Lifeprint’s system of seeing what your hot topic is
(life lesson) in Earth School and being gentle with yourself when you catch yourself
writing another chapter of your life’s thesis. This is the core of the work I do (and is a big part of Life Purpose.)
You can learn this system here as a mindfulness tool.
This is what Eckard Tolle calls being the witness in your own life and standing next to your pain body and watching it in action.
The dynamics of your pain body. Surprisingly, exactly what triggers you, causing you to contract, is visible in your fingerprints.
These 3 tools can all be used together to support each other.
We’re exploring how in Earth School.
This month the topic dealing with the inner critic.
This is my hot topic in Earth School and I’ll be sharing tools I’ve learnt over the years
to deal with this inner predator.
Stay posted. Register in the free auditorium here…..
“When you can feel without a story, miracles happen.”
Arjuna and Chameli Ardagh
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Richard Moss agrees to another interview for Earth School’s free auditorium
By jennagriffiths | March 11, 2011
I’m thrilled to tell you that Richard Moss, author of Inside-out healing and The Mandala of Being and several other books on spirituality and setting yourself free will be back with us in Earth School soon,
this time to discuss “Healing the inner critic”.
Richard has some really powerful, simple to apply, ideas on this topic.
He says that women develop a harsh inner critic (negative inner male) when their positive inner male is suppressed.
This is the side that supports the expression of feminine wisdom and creativity by providing structure and discipline to bring this work out into the world.
Such a simple yet profound idea.
I’m really excited about exploring this thought more deeply with him.
For example, what about men?
Some men also have a harsh inner critic. How is the dynamic different?
When will this call take place?
You’ll be the first to hear.
Make sure you’re registered for news updates or make a note in your diary to come back to this website in th near future.
You can listen in live for free and submit questions.
More about Richard Moss
His last call in Earth Schoolwas last month on relationships. You can listen to the replay of this call inside the free auditorium.
For a free ecourse on the mandala of being visit his website
Richard’s latest book
Inside-out Healing by Richard Moss available through http://amazon.com
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Are you the power behind someone else’s throne?
By jennagriffiths | March 6, 2011
Meet Imperia, your inner friend
In Konstanz, on the lake bordering Germany and Switzerland,
there’s a wonderful 10m high statue
that towers over a tiny harbour.
She puts the statue of liberty in the shade.
Her name is Imperia, created by artistPeter Lenk.
She’s only been on the end of the jetty since 1993
but she’s already captured the imagination of everyone,
including scholars and politicians and members of the
flock who’d prefer the pope not to be naked and the
emperor not to be to be wearing his new clothes.
🙂
You can see more images of her here.
I sometimes give a picture of her to my clients when they have a Jupiter star in their hands.
She is a perfect symbol to remind us of often neglected powerful inner allies.
I’ve even threatened to take a few of them there to leave flowers at Imperia’s feet in gratitude for what she reminds us to see and smile at in ourselves.
Think of Imperia as an inner friend. She has a dark side and a light side.
Embrace both.
What is a Jupiter star?
I’ve posted more about this and what it looks like in the appropriate place.
Why am I telling you about her?
Last week we had one of our advanced hand analysis threading classes in Earth School with a world authority on hands, Richard Unger.
During the call we discussed the danger of being the power behind someone else’s throne – if you yourself are built to sit on a throne rather than
play a supporting role.
If you’d like to learn how to see sub-personalities like Imperia in people’s hands, and learn how to work with them in a positive way, enroll for Earth School’s Inner Circle here. Here’s a limited time offer for the advanced print work calls this year. These are more like post grad classes, not for everyone. Read the rest of this entry »
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Listening with your h(ear)t
By jennagriffiths | March 2, 2011
Your 3rd ear is for listening to inner guidance.
It’s tuned inwards because
h-(ear)-t
as Marianne Williamson says: “The voice of the heart is the voice for God”
I made this image the other day. What do you think?
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Just be yourself – is this the key to solving relationship problems? (Free report)
By Jena Griffiths | February 24, 2011
Our next call with Richard Unger is today.
We’ll be looking at communication styles,
spiritual collaboration and deep soul psychology.
I’ve prepared an extra document for you.
The report walks you through a few simple steps
to know your communication type and your partner’s type.
Hope you find it useful.
On the call with Richard we’ll be taking this a lot further.
Discussing problems of each type.
Also discussing fingerprints, spiritual collaboration
and conscious partnering.
Hope you can join us live.
Tell your friends. Read the rest of this entry »
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Are you a nun or a verb?
By Jena Griffiths | February 21, 2011
I don’t know about you, but I’ve tried very hard to be me.
Or just one thing instead of also the opposite at the same time.
It feels like that game where you have to find the dice under a whole
lot of little cups. But the hands of the magician you’re playing against move so fast that the die keeps showing up exactly where it shouldn’t; or not showing up, exactly where it should. If you see what I mean?
Luckily the guy who wrote The Shack whispered in my ear, “God’s a verb” and someone else whispered in my other ear, “The soul’s a verb.”
And my ego, trying to put two and two together, (are you a noun or a verb) whispered in another ear (?), “I’ll have none of this. I’d much rather be a nun than a verb. Then at least I’ll have habits and things that help me see the edges of what I’m defending.”
(Fortunately my 3rd ear doesn’t listen to my ego too much anymore.)
Did I say third ear?
Yes, didn’t you know? You have one too. And it’s a lot bigger than your 3rd eye.
Where?
In the center of your chest, camouflaged as h(ear)t.
h-(ear)-t
(more about this picture here.)
But mainly this inner ear is for listening to your inner voice. That’s why no need for your nipples to be shaped into earlobes.
😉
Ears are actually at the center of a lot of what happens on this planet.
Like what?
F(ear)
disapp(ear)
(Ear)th
They’re where the stories first come in. That rock us or knock us.
I think the human ear is a secret rabbit hole into the 5th dimension. We pour poison into it in the hope that our dice will finally float to the top and stay there.
What am I on about?
You and the dangers of labeling yourself with a permanent marker.
The problem with labels or boxes is you need to chop your arms and legs off and sometimes even your head so that you fit in neatly.
It’s like trying to fence in water or claim ownership of air.
But have you noticed?
The human spirit can’t be contained.
As soon as you say “ I am this” or “I am that” you draw boundaries in the sky. Then your ego has to stick around and try to defend them when your spirit has long departed.
So why not drop your habit
of saying “I’m too this or “I’m too that.”
Come be a verb. And verbal. Post your thoughts on this topic below.
Come play in Ear-thschool.
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Attracting your soul mate
By jennagriffiths | February 14, 2011
The free online teleseminar series on finding your Soulmate starts today.
Quite an impressive line up of speakers, many of whom I admire deeply:
Marianne Williamson tonight….Debbie and Arielle Ford… Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks…..Jean Houston…to name just a few.
Worth checking out. I’m attending. You can register for free here.
I’ll be in the front row taking lots of notes.
😉
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Solving relationship problems – it’s in your hands (Interview with richard Unger)
By jennagriffiths | February 7, 2011
The next Earth School interview with Richard Unger is on Thursday 24 February 2011
solving relationships problems- it's in your hands
We’ll be looking at how relationship problems show up in hands and how hands show you a broader picture and give solutions.
This is an important call for Earth School.
Why?
Because hands show more than surface issues in relationships.
Your fingerprints show deep themes that cause you to shut down or open up. Learning how to work with these themes as a couple, or with someone close like a relative or close friend is the main work we explore inside Earth School’s Inner Circle.
What will we discuss on the call?
We’ll be looking a hand markers related to issues of the heart: love, betrayal, intimacy…
What causes you to feel contracted? Or expanded?
What causes your partner to shut down?
How your hands can help you understand each other and your individual needs better.
and lots more.
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