Happiness Tip 1 – Just don’t go there!
By Jena Griffiths | January 6, 2013
“When you are in the wrong place inwardly
it doesn’t matter where you are outwardly.” Guy Finley
I was clearing out the clutter in my computer a few days ago and
chanced upon a recording by Guy Finley from a few years ago
called “Stay out of the places that steal your happiness.” It’s
a gem. I even used it this morning before getting out of in bed.
Guy says, When it comes to negative places – just don’t go there!
For example, you find yourself starting a dark dialogue with
yourself – just don’t go there!
Or you go into the past to reconcile the pain caused by going
into the past. Instead, just don’t go there. The only time you
get into trouble is when you don’t see where you are in the
moment. Because you are not present to yourself you wind up
punishing yourself.
How to get out of a dark place if you’re already there?
Simply press pause and say, “This isn’t a good place for me to
be.”
Guy gives a great analogy of a warden trying to warn a hiker who
is headed for a gorge where there are crocodiles and wolves and
other predators awaiting his arrival. The hiker suddenly realizes
where he is and in that moment is miraculously tele-ported onto a
higher path above the danger. The warden asks him how he managed
to do that and he says it’s a simple trick. All you need to do is
recognize you’re in the wrong place and say to yourself, “This
isn’t a good place for me to be!”
This is embarrassing to admit, but when I first listened to this recording
(a few years ago) I didn’t quite understand what Guy meant.
I thought he had some magic key that I couldn’t quite grasp because he was
being obtuse! That’s because I took his story literally thinking he meant a
physical place rather than a mental place.
It takes a while for it to sink in that we are the ones torturing ourselves.
No-one else is. So, if your mind tries to lead you down into a very dark
place – just don’t go there.
And if you are already down there, getting eaten alive by crocs –
the way to get out is not to stay down there looking for a way
out. It’s just to recognize what’s happening. This massacre is in
your mind and totally self created. Simply press pause and say to
yourself, “This isn’t a good place for me to be!” Then come back
to your breath and you’ll find that suddenly you’re on a higher
road, way above the crocodiles.
Analysis Paralysis
If you have an extra long head line you’re designed to think long
about things.
This has a lot of advantages but the danger is analysis paralysis.
So too, if you have an extra long flat heart line. Here the danger
is over-analyzing issues of the heart.< br />
All the more reason to press pause occasionally and think about
what you’re thinking about. And then, if necessary, remind
yourself gently, “Just don’t go there!”
Wishing you a croc-free week.
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How to set goals that actually make you happy.
By Jena Griffiths | January 1, 2013
With a New Year starting, thought you might like this great video from Brian Johnson on
how to set goals that actually make you happy.
His main point?
Success is a by-product of happiness not the other way round.
So build happiness into your goals by orientating towards intrinsic rather than extrinsic goals.
Meaning contribution to family or society, building deeper relationships or growing as a person. Rather than wealth, fame etc.
How to be more happy?
Here are some methods from Brian:
1. Meditation changes your DNA. Set a goal for this even if it is only 1 minute per day.
2. Keep a daily gratitude journal. (I do this. It’s fantastic.)
3. Avoid comparisons – the only thing you should think about other people is how to celebrate their success.
4. Build your will power – surprisingly slow breathing helps.
5. Exercise – not exercising is like taking a depressant! (Ma ke sure one of your goals is related to how often you get out and walk, run, row, swim….)
6. Put your virtues (strengths) into action and use them to serve others.
Strengths? eg creativity, hope, gratitude, bravery, leadership,
perspective…. (your hands can help you here).
7. Create happiness rituals.
8. Set goals for all your roles. eg your role as a mother or brother
or partner.
9. Begin with the end in mind. On your deathbed, what would you like
to be remembered for? What would you regret if you didn’t do it?
Here are 2 more paths to happiness that I’ve recently discovered.
1. Mythologize don’t pathologize. If something has happened in your life to break your world in two. Betrayal, scandal, whatever.
Step back and look at your life from a broader perspective. How is this your Hero’s journey? How is this serving you and the world in general? How does this help you sing your unique song or offer your unique gift to others? This wisdom comes from Jean Houston via Marc Gafni and his incredible book Unique Self. This is what Jean recommended Marc do when his world came tumbling down. Thanks to Jean, Gafni, an Israeli rabbi, stepped up to a larger worldwide platform with a book that could quite possibly reconcile and heal all the world’s religions.
2. Fill the last 30 minutes of your day with only positive things –
eg your gratitude journal, thinking or writing about what went right today or your goals, hopes and dreams.
Why?
While you sleep, the brain goes over this material 17 times more often anything else you experience during the day.
My 2013 wishes for you:
May you step up to the highest version of who you are.
May you sing the song that only you can sing.
May you be happy.
Happy New Year,
Jena
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Season’s greetings
By Jena Griffiths | December 24, 2012
Wishing you and your family a fun, relaxing holiday.
May you bring light and joy into their lives. And into all the lives you touch.
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cosmic window 21.12.12
By Jena Griffiths | December 21, 2012
As the sun rises on a new era during this long awaited Solstice –
this is what the gurus are saying:
Stay in your heart. Spread the love. Be happy. Feel grateful for wherever you are right now.
Maybe check out Tom Kenyon’s meditation for co-creating :
http://tomkenyon.com/the-cosmic-window
The art of patience
Tom says use the meditation to review your life the first few days from an eagle’s view point and only focus on outcomes on the 23rd – for yourself and the planet.
Let’s co-create more harmony and recognition of life’s inter-connectedness.
Here’s to a higher vision of ourselves and our planet.
Happy Solstice!
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Forthcoming calendar with Richard Unger and Jena Griffiths in 2013
By Jena Griffiths | December 20, 2012
Looking forward to another year in Earth School exploring hands in depth with Richard Unger.
Here’s the new calendar of Topic and Threading Calls for 2013 based on member preferences.
January: Gina rehabilitation – how to recover and live your type
February: Delicious Dilemmas – Finding the key to a reading
March to December: Life Lesson Topic Calls – how to live your exalted possibilities
We with run through a different lesson each month and explore how to turn your lesson into your gift.
Early warning signs and what to do.
Here is a year end special offer if you would like to pay annually instead of monthly.
(Save 2 months.)
Annual Earth School Special Offer
Full schedule of Earth School calls with Richard Unger and Jena Griffiths in 2013
January 22 Gina rehab – How to recover and live your type
January 29 Advanced threading – Gina rehab
February 5 Delicious Dilemmas – Finding the key to a hand
February 12 Advanced Threading – Delicious Dilemmas
February 19 Advanced hand shapes – Master of My Domain
February 26 Advanced hand shapes – Master of My Domain
March 5 Life Lesson Topic Call – Left Jupiter Lesson
March 12 Advanced threading – Left Jupiter Lesson
March 19 Advanced hand shapes – The Red Queen
March 26 Advanced hand shapes – The Red Queen
April 2 Life Lesson Topic Call – Right Jupiter
April 9 Advanced threading
April 23 Advanced hand shapes – Hot Ideas
April 30 Advanced hand shapes – Hot Ideas
May 7 Life Lesson Topic Call – Left Saturn
May 14 Advanced threading
May 21 Advanced hand shapes – The Actress
May 28 Advanced hand shapes – The Actress
June 4 Life Lesson Topic Call – Right Saturn
June 11 Advanced threading
June 18 Advanced hand shapes – Doctor, Lawyer, Guide
June 25 Advanced hand shapes – Doctor, Lawyer, Guide
July 2 Life Lesson Topic Call – Left Apollo
July 9 Advanced threading
No calls during the last 3 weeks of July
No calls during the first 2 weeks August
Au gust 20 Life Lesson Topic Call – Right Apollo
August 27 Advanced threading
Sept 3 Life Lesson Topic Call – Left Mercury
Sept 10 Advanced threading
Sept 17 Advanced hand shapes – Inner Inquiry
Sept 24 Advanced hand shapes – Inner Inquiry
Oct 1 Life Lesson Topic Call – Right Mercury
Oct 8 Advanced threading
Oct 15 – no call
Oct 22 Advanced hand shapes – The Artisan
Oct 29 Advanced hand shapes – The Artisan
Nov 5 Life Lesson Topic Call – Left Thumb
Nov 12 Advanced threading
Nov 19 Advanced hand shapes – The Musician
Nov 26 Advanced hand shapes – The Musician
Dec 3 Life Lesson Topic Call – Right Thumb
Dec 10 Advanced threading
Annual Earth School Special Offer
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Life is supposed to be fun
By Jena Griffiths | December 18, 2012
I love this classic timeless message from Abraham – Hicks
Thought you might like to see this with all that is going on at the moment.
“The purpose of your life is joy” Abraham-HIcks
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On Healing Grief and Rage –
Interview with Karin Andersson Hagelin
By Jena Griffiths | December 12, 2012
13 December, 2012 in the Open Auditorium we’ll be talking to grief counselor Karin Andersson Hagelin on what to do to heal from grief or rage or other extreme emotions, for example after losing a child or someone else you love.
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We’re exploring the Grief Recovery Method that Karin practices and she will also share her own experience. How she recovered after the loss of her child.
We also discussed the 5 myths about healing – such as time heals, be strong, grieve alone …. and what to do instead to recover from your loss. More about Karin Andersson Hagelin |
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On healing rage – what I did to heal myself
By Jena Griffiths | December 8, 2012
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Next Thursday at our usual time we’ll be talking to grief counsellor, Karin Andersson Hagelin to learn how to heal from the loss of a loved one. What to do if you or people you know are grieving or experiencing extreme emotions. This is a complimentary call. Attend here Ever since our last call with Richard (on grief and rage and what your hands say about this) I’ve been thinking about what I did heal my own extreme emotions in the past. To be totally honest, I didn’t heal my grief for a long time but I healed my rage by expressing it. |
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How? What I did was stand outside the other woman’s house in the middle of the night during a snowstorm and howl and rant and rage. I threatened to climb her stairs and murder her in her bed but instead I picked up a large plant in ceramic pot and smashed it on her doorstep. I couldn’t see the mess because it was pitch dark but it was a very healing experience. The pot sounded like it had shattered into a zillion pieces just like my heart had and I felt a million times better while driving home. 6 months later I spoke to a therapist about this experience and she said I was very fortunate that I’d been able to express my anger, unlike so many of her clients who suppressed it for years and years. The funniest story I’ve ever heard related to this specific type of rage (due to feelings of abandonment) was one told by a celebrated SA designer several years ago. Apparently she spotted her husband’s car outside the other woman’s apartment and, in a fit of rage, used her BMW to smash his Porche about 50 times. Until she felt calm and, quite frankly, elated. I know the feeling. But I guess I’m a cheapskate in comparison. 😉 I also think sport or any extreme exercise helps to heal both grief and rage. Especially if you can smash something, like a ball in a squash court or a punching bag. The need to express one’s grief or rage reminds me of the poem on this topic by William Blake. So: feel, express, release. Another really important thing to do to heal is to take full responsibility for whatever happened, even if it’s not your fault. Because what is always your responsibility is your response. Especially your interpretation. |
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Grief and Rage
By Jena Griffiths | December 3, 2012
The only cure for grief is to grieve. – Earl Grollman
In the coming weeks we’ll be exploring the theme grief and rage.
How this applies to hands and also what experts in this field advise:
How to heal. How to help others heal.
Tuesday December 4th, we’ll be exploring this theme with Richard Unger from a hand analysis perspective.
Join this call.This is not a free call but part of the monthly topic series.
On Thursday December 13th, in the free auditorium, we’ll be talking to a grief counselor, Karin Andersson Hagelin to learn what she advises.
What to do if you are going through this experience or how to support friends or family during this time.
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Interview with Tomar Levine – birthing your sacred work
By Jena Griffiths | November 29, 2012
“There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in” Leonard Cohen
Today’s message comes from Tomar Levine who will be with us next week in the free auditorium.
Tomar is a New York Life Coach and wise soul guide.
On finding your light this is what Tomar says:
“Don’t we think we are cracked, that the world is cracked?
And yet… what if those very things we reject are what we NEED?
Are precious experiences by which our souls grow?
Now look at the image above, of the egg, full of cracks.
Instead of letting the light in, in this case, it’s how the light gets OUT!
Because there’s treasure inside that egg… just like there’s treasure inside each one of us.
Just like there’s treasure inside of you.
Your soul is a treasure, your essence is a treasure, the gifts you brought into this life are treasures.
But in order to find them… sometimes we all need to crack a little. “
Tomar also talks about “the paradox of gratitude”.
And why we need to feel grateful for all experiences
– including the cracks in our lives, and in the world.
Replay is here (log in free to access.)
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