desires vs needs
By Jena Griffiths | May 9, 2012
In 1943 Maslow proposed a hierarchy of human needs. That each of us has basic needs and that we need to address the needs on the lower end of the pyramid before we can even begin to look at our higher needs.
More recently Tony Robbins proposed that each of us has six human needs:
1. The need for Certainty/Comfort.
2. The need for Variety. Paradoxically, we need uncertainty to provide spice and adventure in our lives.
3. The need for Significance. Deep down, we all want to be important. That our life counts.
4. The need for Connection/Love.
5. The need for Growth. To become better, to stretch and excel.
6. The need for Contribution. The desire to contribute something of value—to help others, to make the world a better place than we found it is in all of us.
In our recent call with Richard Unger on the Human Desire System, Richard tackled this topic from a different perspective.
He proposed that each of us has 4 types desires:
1. our wants in general (ego-driven, body-driven wants…),
2. a desire to understand/make sense of our lives
3. a desire for connection
4. a desire for solitude
These relate to the 4 heart line types (fire, air, water, earth), each type putting more focus on one of these 4 but still needing the others.
This call can be purchased form Earth School archives here.
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May 9th, 2012 at 5:06 pm
It is a less known fact that in the last ten years of Maslow’s life he further differentiated his iconic “triangle” stating that the Safety, Love, Belongingness and Esteem needs were Deficit needs that until they are met create discomfort. He distinguished the additional needs above those for Knowledge, Beauty, Self-actualization and Transcendence as Growth needs that never get fully met. We always want to grow as humans- to be out on the skinny branches of life..That’s where the juiciness is.
May 9th, 2012 at 5:57 pm
Thanks Wendy for adding this. I love your imagery “skinny branches of life”. I do wonder though about our need for meaning. i think this need permeates through all levels.